Monday, May 10, 2010
Why do men always cheat?
Why Men Cheat
First of all, men don't always cheat, but when they do, here are some possible reasons:
They are not ready to have commitments.
They no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship.
They are concerned aobut their financial/living situation if they end the relationship, but do not feel fulfilled in it.
They like various sex partners.
They crave the initial excitement and illicitness of a "secret" affair.
They need to feel desired and their partner does not fulfill that need.
Men are single-minded and don't think about the consequences of their actions.
Some men cheat because they think they can get by with it.
Some cheat because they don't take their relationships seriously.
Guys cheat because many of them increasingly feel powerless in a society that is giving women more rights & powers in the domestic & public spheres.
Men stray outside of long-term relationships to remember what it was like to be desirable and free. "Schedules" and routine destroy self image.
The woman's sex drive isn't what it was when you first got married.
Having sex with more than one woman is an ego boost for those with low self-esteem.
Men cheat because they are bored in their current relationships
The man perceives that the partner is bored with or no longer interested in sex.
Lack of or poor communication with the spouse/girlfriend can lead a man to cheat.
other people are something new and different
you have no old baggage with someone new
maybe they want something with ''no strings''
different people have different likes and dislikes
their spouses might not be interested in doing the sexual things the men want to try out (e.g. oral, greek, 3-ways, etc.) or even afraid or morally against such kinks.
More comments about men who cheat
Try not to forget, both genders cheat. However the crazy women who get hung up on men cheating write about it on websites, the CLEVER CRAZY women simply call an abroad talking clock from his mobile and run up �5000 bill.
I've found that in the case of both men and women, it's either one of two things, 1) a mistake, something that happened in a moment of weakness, or 2) they are unhappy in their current relationship and either want out and have decided to take the easy way out, or are having a hard time communicating about the problem with their spouse.
Another thing I've found is that I think relationships create a sense of safety and that people who cheat feel like they can now "date" from a point of strenght. When your single I think alot of people spend most of their dating time trying to find someone just to have someone their and so they choose a mate who is safe just because being single is lonely to some people, and they feel the need to hurry and get it over with and find someone ASAP. Once in a relationship though they can kind of date chosing people they might be more physically attracted to or feel is their ideal and can do so with out caring too much about rejection since they already have someone to go home to. I really think this happens in alot of cases, and I think if people were more honest with themselves and about what they want out of life then alot of cheating would end.
Unfaithful behavior in a man is often precipitated by a perception that his spouse is bored in the bedroom, which he attributes to a lack of sexual desire on her part. Whether this perception is real or imagined, and whether the fault lies in his behavior or hers (or both), the eroding effect it can have on the relationship is brutal.
A man's self-image is largely attached to his sexual prowess... that's just how men's heads are wired. Also, a man will often feel betrayed when a woman's early, clearly expressed desire is later replaced with indifference and boredom, especially when that transition occurs shortly after marraige. The man might feel as though her earlier sexual interest was feigned or exaggerated with the specific intent to enter the security of marraige, at which time she drops the act as unnecessary.
A man might cheat in this scenario either to "get back" at his spouse, to receive the desire he feels is due him (but cheated out of by his wife), or as part of a pattern of self-destructive behavior due to a lowered self-esteem.
The solution, then, is true communication, not just talking. If a woman wants something more-- or something different-- in the bedroom, SHE MUST TELL HIM. Keeping it from him to spare embarrassment, or to spare his feelings, is poison.
When a man or a woman cheats while they are married, it is obvious that they do not love their spouse the way they used to. Another reason may also be they do not want to stay in the relationship but feels they can not get out of the marriage for some reason (i.e. presure from family, religion, don't want to looked upon as failure, so on so forth). Cheating is wrong despite the reasons. SO DON'T DO IT PEOPLE. Get out of what you are in then go for the other person. That is the chance we all have to take in life if you want something new and exciting!
It's a myth! Not all men cheat! It just isn't men who can cheat, but women are running a close second during these modern times. Contrary to popular belief there are some successful relationships.